In a world dominated by productivity and urgency, I have a habit of getting swept away by the relentless stress of it all. I get caught in the trap of performance and people-pleasing to meet my need for belonging—a collective root wound. I do this to feel like I fit in somewhere. I’m too soft for this hard world. But I’ve lived long enough and experienced enough to know I am not alone in this, and that realization means I belong. It’s easy, though, to become a creature of habit, operating on autopilot under a persona celebrated by society or family’s standards in a relentless world. We’re not supported to pause, reflect, and simply be ourselves. This world does not want you to slow down and feel, and that is absolutely by design.
This is exactly what inspired Drop Urgency (@drop.urgency) and Creatures of Habit. I didn’t start teaching because it was Instagrammable and trending. Or because it’s cute and a rebellion against having a “real job”. I didn’t try a 9-5, create stability, and then put my creative face forward. This isn’t just a program I created with AI to hit a six-figure month and be an influencer. Although there is nothing necessarily wrong with those things, this is me sharing a personal journey and my heartfelt commitment through my own experiences, to reclaim our lives from the grip of urgency, stress, and disease. It is an offering from my heart to yours and a genuine effort to effect systemic change in our world.
In the rush to do more, achieve more, and be more, I’ve always been a rebel with a meaningful cause; always a heart-led vagabond on a mission to free her spirit from the constraints of normal. I have always intended to move with curiosity, wonder, and awe. I needed to lead a more ‘fringey’ kind of life compared to the mainstream. I needed to connect to something greater than myself and serve a purpose beyond just what was expected of me. Sadly though, as a young woman working through her sh*t, it was no walk in the park. A lot of the time, it meant disconnecting from my body and mind as a survival mechanism—a trauma response of substance abuse and toxic relationships; an anxious attachment and inescapable generational patterns of self-neglect. An inner child dying to be loved.
In my 30s, I finally allowed myself to put my toxic ways of relating behind me. I permitted myself not to ’fit in’. I worked to cultivate belonging in myself and said ‘No’ as ritual and worship. I was no longer numbing and dissociating, but sitting and feeling. I got much-needed ankle surgery, quit partying, stopped prioritizing others over myself, gained authority in my voice, and learned how to ask for and receive help. I learned to stand on my own two feet again—literally and metaphorically. I began taking embodied action on these subtle needs that I didn’t have space or capacity to heal before. I embraced the downshift as an opportunity to decondition my body-mind unashamedly and embody my purpose and mission. I was consciously cultivating a safe, liminal space for my heartfelt transformation and healing. Ya know, like a real intentional cocoon moment? I was listening to my needs for the first time and consistently choosing to nourish myself with new conditions and healthy habits. I’m kinda feeling like that’ll be my 30s, caterpillar stage. Butterfly incoming.
But I digress—the urgency we all need to heal from and what I’m referring to isn’t about not ‘being busy’, or not enjoying a faster pace of living. It is definitely not about becoming complacent or apathetic. It’s not lazy or selfish behavior. The urgency I want us to address and drop is an anxious state of mind that clouds our direction and numbs our real feelings and deeper needs. It makes us make decisions that don’t support our deeper needs. It is fear-based conditioning and a hyper-vigilant nervous system. A distrust in God. Codependent. A mind that can never be alone, a body that can never settle, and a heart that can never self-soothe; an energy that never creates anything and never grounds. This urgency is an inner child whose needs were not authentically met and desperately need tending to now.
Dropping this kind of urgency makes room for self-awareness and introspection, creating a sanctuary within yourself where heartwork and true healing can begin. It’s a practice in radical forgiveness, giving yourself space to genuinely embrace flaws and mistakes as part of the human experience. Not only that but to see them as a necessary way to learn and embody our inherent worthiness for love and belonging. We have to see this as the only way to build sustained confidence in body and mind. By cultivating a gentle and forgiving attitude towards ourselves, we heal old wounds and release ourselves from the grip of negative, habitual patterns one day at a time.
When I started prioritizing my subconscious needs (my inner child), when I finally allowed them to be conscious and simply exist, when I wholeheartedly accepted all parts of me, I found that I could finally confront my deep-seated fears and anxieties. I could really hold my whole heart better than anyone I had ever pretended could. This shift allowed me to hold firm in my boundaries and cultivate healthy relationships and a more fulfilling life—not a material fulfillment but one connected to something deeper in myself, a higher power. I learned to recognize and respond to my intuition without guilt or shame, continually surrendering my will to the creative force far greater than mine.
Creatures of Habit is more than a method; it’s a way of life. It’s about gently and lovingly breaking free from the cycles that keep us stagnant and stepping into a life of mindfulness, compassion, and authentic self-expression. This is a call to devote ourselves to living by way of the heart—by dropping urgency, taking inventory, and embracing ourselves (and each other!) with love and compassion. This paves a path for profound and sustainable change; a path to peace in and through the body.
That is why, to support our journey, I created Creatures of Habit, the membership. Through weekly somatic practice, we will explore how to release tension, build resilience, and foster a deeper connection with ourselves. In the hundreds and hundreds of bodies I have moved, I’ve come to know for sure, that we all have the power to create a sustainable path to peace in and through our bodies. But it is a journey that requires patience, courage, and a continual willingness to devote yourself and look within. In doing so, the rewards are immeasurable—a life lived with greater awareness, deeper connection, embodied confidence, and a profound sense of peace.
So please, if you’re ready to transform your relationships, break down barriers, embrace transparency, and move more mindfully in our world, I invite you to join me and subscribe. I intend to co-create a transformative experience with you, aligning our bodies and hearts with the rhythms of nature, de-conditioning from a culture of performance and urgency, and paving a sustainable path to peace in and through our bodies.
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